Do I have any followers living in NYC? Let’s start a feminist bike club.
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OMG, I screamed at my first street harasser today!
“GET THE FUCK AWAY FROM ME ARE YOU FUCKING SERIOUS?!”
It was awesome, except that I totally bursted out laughing immediately after for having freaked out so hard and then lost a few levels in the severity of the situation haha.
Anyway, bro initially cat-called when he was getting on his moped. Obviously I ignored the shit out of him, but then he got on it and rolled up next to me, following me. Legit almost hit him with my bag of pastries. So creepy.
Having queer feminist conversations with Zach is one of the higher highlights of my day.
Amanda Marcotte - Why are conservatives so obsessed with sex? (via bearnakedisdead)
Still hesitant about Marcotte’s feminism, but still 90% love her.
(via thesouthplatte)
Queer Feminism (via transfeminism)
Everyone READ THIS. I just did, and so much about transphobia and gender identity and queer feminism became clear to me.
At its most repugnant, the belief that women must be subjugated to the wishes of men excuses slavery, violence, forced prostitution, genital mutilation and national laws that omit rape as a crime. But it also costs many millions of girls and women control over their own bodies and lives, and continues to deny them fair access to education, health, employment and influence within their own communities.” Jimmy Carter. Losing My Religion for Equality. (via anotherword)
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Chimamanda Adichie on TED Talks: The Danger of a Single Story
A few years ago I was interning at a homeless women’s center in Denver,…
I was working in the family development area, and one of my responsibilities was to hand out food/supply packages to the families in need. The packages would consist of mostly donation materials, and were usually items such as diapers, baby formula, canned foods, etc.
Anyway, one day one of the mothers came in to pick up her monthly package. I’m not sure the exact context of the situation, but I remember her complaining that the baby formula wasn’t the kind that she liked. It was just a generic brand - good, but not great. She wanted better for her child.
God, I totally just remembering being a jerk and whispering to my supervisor something along the lines of: shouldn’t she be grateful that she’s getting ANY at all? For free?!
Luckily I had a wonderful supervisor, and she calmly said: “Just because she is poor, doesn’t mean that she/her child doesn’t deserve to want or ask for the best.”
And that was my little story. I’m not sure the exact direction that I was going with it, but I really enjoy this blog for giving me the space to practice a little humility. A space to talk about past incidents such as this, and learn from them.
However, girls don’t just have sex because they view themselves as “sex objects”: teenage and even pre-teenage girls have sexual desires of their own. Sex isn’t necessarily something that is done to girls, because they view themselves as sexual objects; it can be initiated and enjoyed by them. Indeed, the reason underage sex among girls is rising could be due to female sexuality becoming less taboo.
I agree with Abbott that we need “better PSHE [personal, social, health and economic] teaching in schools for both girls and boys”. Sex education should focus not just on the mechanics of heterosexual sex and how to keep it safe – important as these are – but on varieties of sex. Sex between girls, sex between boys; the importance of enthusiastic consent – in effect, discussion of how to have good sex rather than just safe sex.
” Simone Webb (via glitterdeath)(Source: Guardian)
theshitwealllove asked: Do you always use broad generalizations when trying to prove your point , it only when it serves to prove whatever message your trying to get out. In a message that us supposed to teach people not to prejudge, you have judged all "white" people.
Well 1. I didn’t write that. And 2. If you actually read the blog post beyond the title (which I borrowed from the original author), it actually only identifies “some of you” as the target of the open letter.
So if you’re not racist and don’t participate in victim-blaming, then no the letter was probably not intended for you.
“Dear White People…”
“…
Some of you–not going to name names, you will figure out who you are– are saying, or thinking, that in one way or another Trayvon is at fault for his own murder. You are saying, or thinking, “He should have known that he looked suspicious with that hoodie on.” “He should have known that someone like him would come across as threatening.” “He shouldn’t have felt afraid of the large man following him and chasing after him.” You are saying, or thinking, exactly the same sort of thing that some of you say, or think, about rape victims: They should have known what a dangerous world it is for them out there and they should have dressed and carried themselves accordingly, so as not to invite bad things to happen to them.
Never mind, of course, that the people who do these bad things are responsible for what they say, think, and do, too. Never mind, of course, that the people who actually do racist, sexist things are emboldened and enabled by the way that good folks who would never, ever in a million years think of doing such things continually blame their victims and not them. No, racists and rapists are just a fact of life in your worldview, like severe weather; women and people of color have to dodge them, take cover, be on the lookout, but we certainly can’t think that there’s something we might do about them.
Some of you get angry when I talk like this. You protest that you would never do racist things or commit rape. You are just making an observation. You don’t mean to say anything racist or sexist. Then I point out to you the difference between intent and impact. You might not mean to say racist things, but the things you are saying just are racist. The very fact that you have to appeal to the purity of your intentions to cleanse your words should provide you with a hint. Neither your good intentions or mine have magical powers. If you said something that was racist, your good intentions, assuming they are good, mean at best that you need to be far more careful in what you say and think. Learn from it in all humility and try to do better next time. Trust me, I’ve been there many times.
Some of you get even angrier at being told this. How unfair, you protest! Isn’t it a free country anymore? Now I have to police what I say and think? Yes, of course you do! I was raised in rural Kentucky to believe that people are supposed to think carefully before they say things and consider the impact my words have on others. This is just what good people do. However hard it is in practice, it isn’t all that complicated a concept. Why is this somehow forgotten, though, when the others aren’t other white people? Do you really want or need me to answer that question out loud?
Here’s what angers me the most, though: It’s that you can’t see, or refuse to see, that this distinction between intent and impact is the very same distinction to which you appeal when you blame Trayvon for his own murder or when you blame rape victims for their own rapes. You are saying, in effect, Trayvon may not have meant to get shot, but he should have known that wearing his hoodie up like that would make him look threatening to the world. He should have known better. How is that not the same distinction? Why do you get to use this distinction against Trayvon, an innocent child, without anyone getting to use it against you when you try to explain away the actions of the man who killed him? Why? Why does Trayvon or any other person of color have to carry cognitive and volitional burdens you don’t? Why are your comfort and ease and your precious feelings and your ability to mouth off whenever you want about whatever you want so damned important? Why do black kids have to learn to pay for your peace of mind and self-esteem by having to worry about whether what they are wearing might contribute to them getting hunted down in the street? Why is this a privilege you get and he doesn’t? Why can’t you see that this is as blatantly unfair as saying that some spaces are whites only? Why?
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via To My Fellow White People: An Open Letter
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notes found in the girls bathroom on my campus
